There’s this saying that if you wear a hard wig, you’ll meet a man who gives you a soft life. My experience was the complete opposite. Somehow, during the period of my life when I was consistently wearing a bad wig, life itself felt harder. Not just dating everything. It was almost funny, but also kind of miserable. That hard wig felt like it translated into my overall energy, my appearance, and honestly how I was treating myself. And no, I didn’t wear the hard wig on purpose. But what I did...

One of the hardest parts about trauma is that it doesn’t really matter how long ago it happened or how impactful it seemed at the time. Trauma shows up in the present. It lives in triggers those unexpected moments throughout the day that pull you back into old feelings, old reactions, or old fears. Sometimes it shows up as paranoia, that quiet (or loud) sense that what happened before is about to happen again. And that’s the ugly part. What matters most isn’t pretending those feelings don’t...

I personally hate time constructs. I hate the way we’ve collectively agreed that because a new calendar year starts, we’re suddenly supposed to reinvent ourselves overnight. Like January 1st hits and now you’re expected to be a completely different person with better habits, clearer goals, and a whole new life. At the same time, I get it. I understand why a new year makes people want to change. There’s something about it that feels like a reset button, even though, if we’re being honest, we...