Hard Wig, Even Harder Life

There’s this saying that if you wear a hard wig, you’ll meet a man who gives you a soft life.

My experience was the complete opposite.

Somehow, during the period of my life when I was consistently wearing a bad wig, life itself felt harder. Not just dating everything. It was almost funny, but also kind of miserable. That hard wig felt like it translated into my overall energy, my appearance, and honestly how I was treating myself.

And no, I didn’t wear the hard wig on purpose.

But what I did do was move through life without boundaries. I wasn’t taking care of my skin. I wasn’t pouring into myself. It was very much “throw on a wig, put on a hat, and keep it pushing.” And while the struggle didn’t necessarily come from the opposite sex, it definitely came from how little care I was giving myself.

That’s the part people don’t talk about enough how your self-image impacts your energy, your mindset, and the way you show up for yourself. When I looked back, I realized I was being harder on myself than life even required me to be.

Once I took the wig off; literally and figurativelyI had to sit with that. I got more intentional. I invested in a skincare routine with actual steps. I started paying attention to upkeep, not for appearances, but for me. Little choices that added up to feeling clearer, softer, and more grounded.

Do I have everything together now? Absolutely not. And yes, the wig is still somewhere, just in case. But once I stopped forcing myself to move through life in a way that didn’t feel aligned, I was finally able to make better choices for myself.

Sometimes it’s not about changing your whole life. Sometimes it’s about taking off what no longer fits and choosing yourself with a little more care.